have the peer delay setting a max buffer size, in case things have unblocked in the mean time

src/yggdrasil/peer.go

@@ -303,11 +303,13 @@ func (p *peer) _handleIdle() {
 
 func (p *peer) dropFromQueue(from phony.Actor, seq uint64) {
 	p.Act(from, func() {
+		p.Act(nil, func() {
 			if seq == p.seq {
 				p.drop = true
 				p.max = p.queue.size + streamMsgSize
 			}
 		})
+	})
 }
 
 // This wraps the packet in the inner (ephemeral) and outer (permanent) crypto layers.